What can I do to help him?

He is honest, caring, has a great job – and he is keen to settle down. I really want to help him, but don’t know how

How can I help find my brother a girlfriend or wife? (I have been married for 20 years.) He is good-looking, educated, articulate, honest, caring, funny, owns his own place and has a great job. I know he wants to marry and have children. What can I do to help him?

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